Don’t Put Yourself Down

I know too many women who put themselves down because their homes don’t meet Martha Stewart’s standards or their kids didn’t turn out perfect. . Yet they spend much of their time as caregiver for their loved ones; often taking care of their ill spouse or parent for years or raising grandchildren. They gave all they had, did everything they could but feel like they failed in some way because their homes and families don’t meet the standards of a Martha Stewart.
In many ways these women remind me of Mary on the way to the Cross. Like Mary they share in the suffering of their loved ones. They see their pain and suffer along with them. Like Mary they join in Christ’s sacrifice on Calvary.
We’re called to be “living sacrifices” to join the sacrifice of our lives with that of Christ at Calvary and in the mass. Jesus said “greater love hath no man than to lay down his life for his friends”. Too often we think of the soldier, police officer or fire fighter who dies in their service. We forget those who day by day, year after year lay down their lives for their loved one. This is just as important to God.
It doesn’t matter who society thinks. It doesn’t matter if you meet Martha Stewart’s ideal of the perfect housekeeper or any one else’s. How well you cook doesn’t matter, nor how much money you made. What matters is that you are answering God’s call. You are doing what God thinks is most important at this moment. You are giving everything you have to your loved one. That is what truly matters. God is so pleased with your sacrifices. Each one may seem small to the world and you but God sees the enormous total of your sacrifices. He knows how much it cost you, how much you gave up, how much pain you suffered and how greatly you loved.
In God’s eyes our success is measured not by our income or the beauty of our home but by the love we shared, the people we’ve touched and the spiritual seeds we planted. That is our job, what is most important in life.
Hold your head up, don’t put yourself down. You are an incredible gift of God to someone blessed to have you taking care of them. Yes, you may make mistakes. Yes, you may not be perfect but only God is. What matters is that you’ve done your best, gave all that you could under trying circumstances. That is all God wants of you and all that really matters.


Author: ronquinlan

To me the message is what is important. Feel free to copy and use anything on this blog. Some pieces were originally published by Catholic Lane so please give them credit. I am a charismatic Roman Catholic and former Social Studies teacher in Catholic Schools. Pieces I've written have been published on Catholi Lane, Catholic Exchange and the Women of Grace blog.

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