A Mother’s Prayers
This weekend I had the privileged of giving communion to the granddaughter of a friend of mine. She had basically stopped going to mass when she went to college. Both her mother and grandmother prayed for years for her return to the Church.
This same weekend I saw two other women at mass whose mothers had prayed for them for over 20 years. I see them every week coming to church and receiving communion. I know both mothers must be thrilled. These are only the ones I recognized. There were probably others.
If you are a parent don’t give up. Keep praying and trusting the Lord to work things out. These women are proof that miracles do happen. They might not happen in your life time. You may not see it happen but trust God and pray. He longs for their conversion more than you.
Go to Mary and say the rosary. Few people know how powerful a prayer it is. A group of Jesuit priests survived the bombing of Hiroshima with minor cuts because they said the rosary daily. There was also a group of Franciscans who survived Nagasaki for the same reason.
Offer your communions for your children; say the Divine Mercy chaplet, another powerful prayer. Storm heaven for your children but don’t give up. You can never overestimate the power of a mother’s prayers or the love of Our Mother Mary for your children.
A possible letter to send or leave.
I want you to know that I love you. I’ve loved you even before you were born, from the first moment I was aware of your existence and I will always love you. As you grew up I tried so hard to love you the right way to do what was best for you and to provide for you the best I knew how. I know I’ve made many mistakes but I always loved you and wanted what is best for you.
Watching you grow up was one of the greatest and most painful experiences of my life. You see I loved you so much it hurt me every time that you got hurt. The skinned knees, the bruises, all the injuries and illnesses that caused you pain hurt me too because I loved you so much. Just as painful were the times you were hurt emotionally by your friends and life. When you were hurting I also hurt. That’s what real love for a child means.
It was a joy to watch you grow. I was so happy when you took your first step. Every day you seemed to achieve another first, your first word, the first time you sang, your first time running, riding a bike. There was your first day of school, your first school program, your first graduation, and so many events to celebrate. Every year you progressed you seemed to make me happier and happier to be your parent. Yet at the same time there was sadness because each day brought you one day closer to the day you would leave me and go on your own.
Now you are apart from me. I still love you and feel your pain when you are hurting. I still want what is best for you. I will always want what is best for you. I will always do my best for you. When you struggle and suffer I feel it in my heart. No matter how old you get you will always be my child.
It is hard to love you from a distance. I still yearn to hold my child and kiss your wounds, to comfort you when you are hurt. As old as I am and you are I still worry about you. When there is an accident or disaster near you I wonder if you were hurt. When the Stock Market goes down I worry about your investments and finances. Every time something bad happens I say a prayer that you weren’t hurt.
It is in the context of loving you that I write you today. I write out of love and a concern for what is best for you. As a parent I’ve made many mistakes and failed in many ways. I’ve probably failed in the most important way, teaching you about Jesus Christ.
Somehow I failed to introduce you to a love greater more perfect than mine. Maybe my problem was that I emphasized rules rather than the love Jesus wants to give you in the sacraments. I’m sorry, so sorry to have failed you.
I wish somehow I could help you to know the person of Jesus and His infinite love for you as I know Him. He loves you so much and wants to be with you. He wants to help you through all the problems of your life. You know how tough things are getting now. It is so hard to know what to do. There is so much stress today. Jesus wants to lead you through all of this and give you peace.
Life is so hard today. Our economy seems to be sinking; people are losing money in stocks and real estate. Jobs are disappearing. Cancer seems to be an epidemic and there are so many other diseases. There is so much violence and danger. Our weather seems to be crazy. It seems that every thing one works for can just disappear in an instant.
Life itself seems so fragile. People our age are dying all the time. I see people younger than me, even younger than you in the obituaries all the time. It frightens me, not that I’m afraid of death. I’m afraid of dying before I’ve done every thing possible to bring you to Jesus. I also afraid of you dying.
You see I love you so much I don’t want you to die without Jesus in your heart. I wish I knew the words that would open your heart. I wish I could show you the joy there is in Communion if you are really open to the Lord. I wish I could show you the love that is present in the Sacraments especially the Eucharist and Reconciliation. What joy there is in knowing your sins are washed away, that you can start over!
There is so much I wish I had the right words to say. I wish I could explain the peace Jesus gives us to endure the suffering and economic problems, how He gets us through the crises of our lives. I wish I was a better writer. My words are so inadequate. I love you so much and want you so much to know the love, peace and joy Jesus has for you in the Sacraments. I want you to know His love so badly it hurts. Unfortunately, my nagging has had the opposite effect of what I wanted so badly for you. Forgive me for my nagging and my failure.
Know that I pray often every day for you to discover the real love of your life. Know that even when I die I will continue to pray for you to discover the greatest love of your life and that someday you will join me in heaven.
After this just pray and leave it in God’s hands. His love for your children is much more than yours. He will not give up drawing them. His Holy Spirit will use our clumsy attempt to draw your children to Him in His perfect timing. It may not be immediate but He won’t give up.